Getting caught up in the holiday 'hoopla' can be extremely difficult when you are trying to stick with a health goal such as losing weight, reducing stress, or gaining abundant energy! How can we, as health conscious individuals, stay on track when so many other 'things' are pulling us from our focus?
Check out Step 1 of the 3-Simple Steps to Abundant Health this Holiday!
STEP 1: Establishing Your Goal or Intention
"Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible to visible." - Tony Robbins
Getting clear on a goal or intention for yourself is the first step in achieving an abundant holiday. Whether your goal is mind, body, or spirit related, it does not matter. If it is important to you, then it deserves your focus and dedication. The following information is going to help outline your goal, discover ‘why’ it is important to you, and lastly, give you the steps needed to keep your goal a priority, so it WILL become a reality!
Part 1: What do you want this holiday?
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland
Imagine if you will, that you are sleepwalking through life, with no direction of where to go and what to do. Despite working hard, you aren’t getting what you want, and you are left unfulfilled. Before you know it, you are in your 40's and don’t know what to do next. When you stop, establish goals, think about what you want, and break out of ‘auto-pilot’, magic happens! You start living a life you love and appreciate. You begin to attract positive uplifting people into your world. You begin to live a conscious life of your own making. The world truly does become ‘your oyster’! Now it’s time to make your holiday ‘your oyster?’
To help inspire the 'genesis' of your goal, I ask you to review the following questions. What do you want from this holiday? When it's over and you reflect on the holiday, how was it? How can the holiday experience be better for you? Is there an area you want to simplify? Am I currently doing something ‘healthy’ that usually gets put on the back-burner during the holidays and this year I want to keep a priority? Use some of these questions to help create your intention.
To make the following steps a little simpler I am going to use this example below as a goal. I will continue to reference this throughout the blog: “I find that most holidays I attend too many parties, volunteer for too many functions, and am left too exhausted to enjoy my own holiday. My goal this holiday is to not over-commit myself.”
Part 2. Evaluate the confidence scale.
On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you on achieving your goal? 1- being not committed at all to 10 being, wild horses can't stop me! After you commit to a number (and commit to one, please refrain from saying I am a 6 OR a 7, pick one and stick to it), ask yourself why you scored your number. For example, if you scored a 7, ask yourself why you didn't score an 8? Also, why didn't I score a 6? What would it take for you to move from a 7 to a 9? Discovering what stands in your way of success prepares you for the events that will interfere with your progress.
Example: "On a confidence scale of 1-10 I am an 8. I am confident that can accomplish this goal but what keeps me from being a 9 or 10 is that my history of pleasing others gets in my way of keeping myself and my needs a priority."
Part 3: Visualize this goal being a reality.
“Know that all things are created twice: first in the mind, then in the physical world.” Stephen Covey
I want you to close your eyes and picture your goal/intention coming to life. What does achieving this goal feel like? Who is with you? What are you wearing? What are you saying? Where are you celebrating this elating news? Most of this will be made up so be creative and specific. To give the goal life you must give it details.
Example Vision: "I had 2 invitations to parties that required me to cook, 2 volunteer positions from my son’s school, I had 3 different family holiday programs to attend, and then my personal work event that my colleague asked me to co-host. I decided I was going to do three things and stick with it and I DID IT! I am celebrating my high energy levels by skiing down the mountain the day after Christmas. I had such an amazing holiday and as I am trekking down the moguls, I am reflecting on how fun it was! I feel energized and am so fulfilled. Did I mention that this powder is amazing! My son is skiing in front of me and my husband is already at the bottom of the run (he is much faster then us obviously). I am so proud of myself for sticking with it!"
Part 4: Applying the visual to discover your why.
Refer to your vision. What about this vision appealed to you so much? How did it make you feel? What about it struck a chord for you? How does it impact you, your family, or your career? Now, write down your discoveries. When you uncover these emotions, then you shift into the amazing driving force behind ‘why’ your goal is import and how, when you achieve it, it impacts your life. When you do this, you transform your relationship with your goal/intention. In fact, it can be compared to taking your relationship with this goal from one of 'like' to one of 'love‘. When you love someone, you give them attention. You make sure they stay a priority or else the relationship will fizzle and wilt away. The same is true to your goals and intentions. If you do not give them focus, then other priorities will take their place. So, learn to love your goal!
Example: "Not over committing myself this holiday season feels amazing. I have my power back! I am living a life with balance and I am inspiring my family to do the same. We are making some incredible memories because I had the time to be present and accountable! I can’t wait for next year!
Part 5: Revisit the Confidence Scale
Review Part 5 and ask yourself those questions again. Please take the time and acknowledge if your commitment level has shifted. If it has, welcome to growing the relationship with your goal (moving from like to love!) If not, revisit those questions again and discover what else might be standing in your way of your success!
Example: "OK! Now I am an 9. I know achieving my goal is vital for me because the sense of fulfillment I get from accomplishing my goal is greater than my worries about what others expect of me."
Part 6: Developing action steps and celebrating the small accomplishments.
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” -Benjamin Franklin
What action steps do you need to take in order to achieve your goal? If you are wanting to lose weight for example, are you working with someone who can help guide you, keep you accountable? If you are wanting to work on keeping yourself out of debt this Christmas, have you established a budget and how you will manage money?
Once you have action steps and support in place, you must schedule it into your life as if it is a REQUIRED EVENT! A must attend situation! Something you cannot schedule over! Make it a priority or an integral part of your day! I know over time, not only will you be heading in the right direction, but due to practice, your actions steps become much easier!
Another vital part to sticking with your action steps and pursing your long term goal is to celebrate the small victories. This wakes you up from the 'auto-pilot', I referenced earlier and gets you involved in the goal achieving process. Reflect and celebrate because change is hard and YOU ARE DOING IT!
Part 7: Bless the timeline
This is a quote I often say to my clients, ‘bless the timeline’. What I mean by this is that being a goal-getter doesn’t happen overnight. You will have rough days and you will have ‘kick-butt’ days. How you handle the rough days will be a key in your overall success! Plus, abundant health doesn’t happen overnight. It is a lifestyle and behavior change PRACTICE! You are constantly growing, changing, and evolving. Abundant health will parallel that journey! In fact, I love to say, "Health is a journey, and wellness is the destination."
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Stay tuned for Part 2: Evaluating Your Environment Next Week!
· Don’t set too many goals at one time. As humans we tend to do too many things at one time. This mindset is preparing you to fail. We cannot take on too many roles, expectations, commitments, etc. and master them all. If you want to be successful, pick one goal, and focus on its success!
· Let go of perfection. You will ‘fall off the wagon’. My suggestion, get right back on. And when you do, let go of the fact that you fell off. If you harp or degrade yourself, then you will lose motivation. Instead, focus on learning and moving forward!
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Paul Taylor: 'Behavior Change' PTA Global 3-4 Part of Presentation Series
Covey, Stephen. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.